Features for swinger couples and singles

Couple profiles

A couple profile is one shared space that introduces both of you. You can describe yourselves as a pair, explain your experience in the lifestyle, list the things you enjoy and set out clearly what you will not do. Many couples write the introduction together over a glass of wine; it doubles as a useful conversation about what you both want.

Good couple profiles usually cover:

• Who you are. Ages, rough location, a sentence or two about your personalities.
• Your experience. Brand new, a couple of meets, or seasoned swingers.
• Your preferences. Soft or full swap, and whether you like sharing a room or keeping to your own. If those terms are new, our guide to soft swap explained explains them.
• Your limits. Anything that is off the table, stated plainly.
• Your ideal first meeting. A drink, dinner, or a social at a club.

Our article on profile-writing help has examples and a simple template.

Single profiles

Single women and single men can create their own profiles to meet couples. The most successful singles show they understand swinger etiquette: they read profiles properly, respect the couple's limits and accept that both partners must be comfortable. If you are a single man, tips for single guys is worth reading before you send a message. If you are a single woman, unicorn etiquette explains how couples should treat you.

Location search

Swinging is local. Search for couples and singles near your town, or set a wider radius if you are happy to travel. Our locations hub adds guides for cities and countries, explaining how couples tend to meet in places such as Toronto, Miami, London and Sydney.

Private messaging

Conversations happen privately inside the site, so you do not need to share a phone number or personal email until you are ready. Agree as a couple who will answer messages, and note it in your bio so people know which of you is typing. Our guide to messaging another couple shows how to open a conversation that leads somewhere.

Photo privacy

You choose which pictures appear on your profile and when to share more. Many couples start with tasteful photos that do not show faces, and share face pictures privately once a conversation has built trust. Avoid backgrounds that reveal your home, car, workplace or neighbourhood. Read discretion tips for a detailed checklist.

Blocking and reporting

Anyone who unsettles you, brushes past your limits, mentions money or turns hostile can be blocked and reported in two taps. Reports help keep the community respectful for everyone. Our guide to spotting fakes lists warning signs to watch for.

Works on your phone and your computer

The site runs in any modern browser, so there is nothing to install and no app icon sitting on a shared phone. Many couples browse together on a laptop in the evening and reply to messages from a phone during the day. If you use a family device, open the site in a private window and avoid saving your password.

Message etiquette that gets results

Tools only help if the people using them are considerate. A few habits make conversations on any swinger site more pleasant: reply within a day or two even if the answer is no thank you, keep early messages friendly rather than explicit, refer to something specific in the other profile, and let both partners have a voice. Couples who follow these simple courtesies tend to build a good reputation, and good reputations travel in local scenes.

Guides and city pages

Alongside the tools, we publish a growing library of practical guides for every stage of the swinging lifestyle, from what is swinging to handling jealousy. Read them together; they make great conversation starters.

What VIP and VIP Plus give you

Registering lets you write your bio, upload pictures and browse. To hold conversations and use the complete set of messaging and profile tools, choose a paid membership. There are two tiers.

VIP opens messaging and the core tools couples need to talk with other couples and singles and move towards a first meeting.

VIP Plus sits above VIP, gives the fullest access we offer, and is priced slightly higher at each length.

Paid membership also signals commitment. Couples on swinger forums often say that a subscription filters out casual browsers, and our guide are paid swinger sites worth it looks at that idea honestly.

Plan prices

These are the plan prices in US dollars exactly as checkout shows them.

Weekly, monthly, three month and six month plans renew at the same price until you cancel; twelve month plans simply end. Outside the US, checkout converts to your own money, whether that is sterling, Canadian, Australian or New Zealand dollars, euros or rand.

Choosing a plan length

Newcomers can try a one-week plan to see who is nearby before signing up for longer. Couples who already know they enjoy the site often choose a longer plan so they are not thinking about renewals. There is no right answer; pick the length that matches how long you expect to be actively looking.

How the tools fit together

A typical path looks like this. You build your couple profile together and agree your limits. You search near you and read profiles carefully. You send a few thoughtful messages. When a conversation flows, you arrange a short video call with everyone present. After that comes a drink in public, on the shared understanding that it is only a drink. Our first meet guide walks through each step.

Your account settings

From your settings you can change your password, update your email address, adjust which photos are public or private, and pause your profile if you need a break. Pausing hides you from search without deleting your messages, so you can pick up where you left off when you return.

Frequently asked questions